\”It\’s easy to cry when you realize that everyone you love will reject you or die.\” – Chuck Palahniuk
The story was told of a young preacher who was rejected by the other associate ministers of the Church he attended. They said very little to him and would often talk behind his back. One day he went to the pastor and expressed his intentions of leaving the Church and seeking membership elsewhere because he was deeply affected by the rejection he received. He said to the pastor,
\”I don\’t know what I\’ve done to make these fellows dislike me so much\” he said. \”I really want to be a part of their fellowship and I\’ve done everything I possibly could to be a friend to them, but for some reason they keep on rejecting me.\” The pastor was a wise and seasoned man of God and he said to the young preacher, \”Why don\’t you look out the window for a moment and tell me what you see.\”
The young preacher said, \”I see two trees. I see a china-berry tree and a pecan tree.\” The pastor said, \”Look a little harder and tell me what you see.\” The young preacher said, \”Well, I see a lot of sticks and rocks around the pecan tree, but it is very clean around the china-berry tree. There\’s nothing but green grass around the china-berry, as a matter of fact.\”The pastor said, \”Then that\’s your answer. The reason why you don\’t see sticks and stones around the china-berry tree is because that tree doesn\’t have anything that people want. But it\’s different with the pecan tree. People throw things at it because they want what it has.\” If you have the favor of God and an anointing, it is quite possible that people will throw some things at you that you really don\’t want.
Ways to handle rejection;
1. Learn to listen to rejection carefully. It\’s important to pay attention to the reason for the rejection. It will tell if you have another chance or not. If you apply for a job and the Director says “Not now”, try asking a follow up question to understand why you are being rejected. Lack of proper understanding gives us a false feeling of rejection sometimes.
2. Show yourself kindness. Being rejected is one of the worst things that can happen to any man. It can be very frustrating to put yourself out there for any reason and then, be told “NO.” Try to be kind to yourself after getting rejected in some way. Engage in positive self talk and encourage yourself for the future.
Beloved, we have to be dynamically oriented to be able to effectively deal with the issue of rejection, we can chose to accept, reject or explain away other people\’s rejection of us. Have a great Sunday ahead!
WISDOM NUGGET: Colossians 4:5
\”Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity.\”
Let us pray: Father, teach me how to handle rejection, both perceived and actual in Jesus name.
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